Why are we all addicted to something? Why do human beings in our
culture have this nagging, constant insatiability? What are we
searching for, why do we feel like we are lacking, and why do we
seem to be constantly trying to cure ourselves of restlessness,
boredom, or anxiety?
I dont know the answer to that question one hundred percent, but
I have some theories currently, with the level I am at in
understanding this issue myself. This question is the type that you
ask yourself over the course of your entire life: the answer is
ever-changing, growing as a person personally learns how to be
happy in life without seeking so many external things.
As children, we are always searching for some kind of
gratification. In children it can be observed that the more
entertainment they are given, the more candy, television, toys,
ect, the less satisfied they are with what they have. Children want
more when they have more, and in places where children dont have
many things, they seem to have less insatiability.
However, which child is actually happier or more at peace? A
child with almost nothing, or a child with any indulgence they
want? Its a complicated question, and the answer probably lies
Adults are absolutely no different from children in this
respect, and sometimes they are worse: especially the way people
Adults seek long-term, extremely taxing, ambitious pleasures
that are often unattainable. When accomplished, these things often
dont actually made the adult happy. For example, a person might
aspire to make $100,000 a year, have a nice car, a nice house,
But when they get all the material pleasures they want, they
meet the grim realization that it doesnt feel any different: and
now, theyre probably dependent on spending all their time slaving
away for money to maintain that lifestyle that isnt as satisfying
as previously thought in the first place.
When I was younger and had to be homeless at the age of 17, I
noticed I was just as happy if not happier while not having a home
as I was when I did: I called this phenomena the Euphoria Shelf:
feeling as happy as I did without a home, as I did with one,
despite the discomfort of having to camp outside and struggle to
Heres another thing: people are suffering from anxiety,
depression, and other terms we give to the feelings we have. People
rely on substances and pleasures every day to get themselves
through doing jobs they dont like for a living, to come home and
barely enjoy the small amount of time they have left.
People drink coffee and many are severely dependent on it, using
it to work their day jobs and to function in life generally when it
is a much more unsafe habit than they ever realize.